Confidence

 One of the most important things in life is CONFIDENCE. Everything else follows it. Having faced a very low confidence in myself, I have realised the value of it even more. The first thing we as adults need to instill in children is confidence. Rest of the things come as a result of confidence. Again, there is a line between overconfidence and being just confident.

Also this confidence level keeps varying at various stages of one's life. I am not sure if it can be a straight line for anyone throughout life. It goes up and down due to various factors. The key is to keep the confidence level stable and higher up to sail through this journey. As I mentioned earlier, I have struggled with being confident. I have felt low on this most of the time and after all these years, I have started focusing on improving this. There is no one way to boost our confidence. But definitely doing things we love and enjoy is one big and easy way. 

After a few years of feeling physically low on energy, I was feeling that I have become weak physically. It is very easy for one to feel low on confidence as so many external factors also act as boosters. But slowly I have started relying on all the things I enjoy doing and have started doing more of those and without realizing my confidence level has been increasing. It is a very tough feeling to explain in words. I can only say that anyone who feels confident knows the joy of feeling confident. The best part is, it being very infectious. When we feel confident about one thing, we slowly start feeling confident in all other aspects of life as well. Gradually it spreads like a wildfire 

Remember, confidence does not mean perfection or coming first.

It just enables us to enjoy everything we do. It tells us that it is ok to have doubts, and yet continue, tells us it is ok if we don't get answers, but to continue walking, tells us to see the beauty in uncertainty. And so many other things.

I was super hungry after one of my classes, and so I went to a hotel and ate breakfast alone. My mom was surprised and asked if I didn't feel odd eating alone. And I feel inspired seeing her do everything alone. So, for each one of us this confidence-booster will be different. For one it may be doing something that one is not comfortable with; for someone it may be doing something they are very good at; for someone doing something that they are scared of; for someone it could be doing something that one is not good at, but just that trying can boost the confidence; and for someone it can be doing something new, trying new things; doing things alone; doing things with a new person - the list varies with each individual and for the same individual it could change with time/circumstance. Key is to identify our confidence-booster and consistently do the same.

My easy go-to confidence booster 

Love Laugh Live

 I guess I will continue from my previous post "Love". It feels like we can go through life, or rather sail through life ONLY if we are doing what we love. We may not agree to this as it may not be possible to always do what we love and hence we tell ourselves that it doesn't matter. When we are not doing what we love, our mind is restless, the level of restlessness depends on each individual, but the mind definitely gets restless (according to me) and this leads to sooooo many other craziness in our lives. 

Everything again boils down to the word "Love". Even though it may seem impossible to do the things we love (due to various circumstances) we HAVE TO try and figure out a way to do at least a few of the things we love on a daily basis or again at least more regularly. This is the only way if we want that weird feeling in our heart to go away, if we are in confusion, if we want to make sense of something and if we want peace. I know we cannot be dependent on external factors , but when we are doing the things we love everything else naturally falls in place. And this doing things we love can be as simple as cleaning our house or watching TV or going somewhere or sleeping at home. The point is to acknowledge what we love and try to do the same along with all the other practical/mandatory/non-negotiables we have to do.

People who are happy and feel sorted and safe in life are the ones who are already doing things they love, with or without realizing. 

So, let's put on our love boots and march ahead. Sounds cheesy 😛😂?

The reason for this post - was feeling my lowest recently and the only way I came out of it was because I did so many things I love! Here is a glimpse 😊

Celebrate

Chocolate cake + coffee = 😋

After my 7.5km run/walk

108 Surya Namaskaras

Rathasapthami

Eating

A real luxury

Love

 Feels like a long time since I wrote anything, but it's not true. My mind was filled with many things. Had to travel for work right at the beginning of the year. And I have to say that it was an amazing trip, packed with activities, and I loved every bit of it. Please note the key word here - love - I loved the whole experience, even though it involved sleepless nights, popping in tablets, mental alertness every moment, leaving behind my kids at home when they were not well etc. The reason I am writing about this is to emphasize the word love. 

We will do anything if it is something that we love! And this holds good with people as well. Everything in life boils down to love. I used to wonder every time I heard about this word love - love everything, love everyone etc. Nothing in life is perfect and no one in this world is perfect. We may want a perfect EVERYTHING - a perfect friend, a perfect job, a perfect child, a perfect life_ _ _ _. Perfectness doesn't exist in this world. But what exists is love, and that love makes us look at things and at people in a perfect way. It is only because of the love we have for something or someone, we make things work. 

A simple example - a close friend or our child - they may not be perfect (by the definition), but we feel great with them, we feel they are amazing. We feel this because of the love we have for them. We ignore anything that is negative (according to us) about them. The same thing does not hold good with the outer circle, whom we may call our acquaintances or contacts. Instead we ignore them completely, we become unhappy that they are a certain way. Whereas the same trait in our loved ones won't bother us as much. 

So the minute we start treating everyone with the same love, our world starts feeling beautiful. But the question is if it is possible to love everyone the same way? Can we try? Then maybe even the attachment we have towards our family/friends will get distributed and get balanced. 

Food for thought!

We find ways to love everything

When we love something, it appears beautiful, no matter what