Two sides

It was one crazy week! But so many lessons learnt!

While I was up early this morning I was reminded of a conversation with an acquintance and how we were having a pleasant time inspite of our differences. It suddenly struck me that they were 2 entirely different things. Let me explain. Just like there are 2 sides to a coin, any relation has two aspects to it - 

first is the role they are playing at a given moment - this can be based on a situation or a mood;

second is the default nature of the person devoid of any circumstance/situation/mood. 

I am going to refer to the above 2 aspects as first and second. 

Though one may argue that both are interconnected and the first depends on the latter, it is not so. The reason I am saying this so strongly is because the first one is momentary most of the time and the second one is what the truth is. Unfortunately our lives are ruled by the first behaviour and hence we judge others based on this temporary first behaviour. If we take a moment and remind ourselves everytime that the person in front of us is behaving in a particular way only because of a momentary situation/mood/circumstance, then we will be able to see the true nature of that person and in turn have an amazing relation with them.

To be honest most of us follow this, otherwise we would never have any close relations. But we follow this only with our close relations - close friends and close family. When it comes to the extended circle, we let the first behaviour dominate the second one and we know what happens next. Wouldn't we have an amazing relationship with everyone if we are conscious of this about ourselves? 

Even with close relations, we have conflicts, arguments, fights, disappointments and this is because we are seeing only the first behaviour and forgetting the second. It is so easy to see only the first. It takes an effort to remind ourselves about the second one in everyone around us.  I am going to try for sure!

Happy weekend 😀